Two Types of Soul mates?
In conversations with people, I often explain that I distinguish very clearly between two types of soul mates. The first meaning of soul mate is a person who, when you meet him/her, you feel like you have met before, maybe in another lifetime. You may feel warm and fuzzy, giggly or giddy. You may immediately jump to the conclusion that this familiar connection means that the two of you are supposed to be together and that this person is the one you are destined to be with forever. You may also feel a STRONG chemistry. I did. Before I realized what was happening, I would be head over heels in love. It felt like a whirlwind romance, like I had seen in the movies.
What I didn’t realize was that I hardly knew the guy before I had made the decision that we were destined. I just went along for the dizzy ride despite what my intuition was telling me: RUN! The relationships that I had with this type of soul mate never lasted. I needed to meet that soul mate for a specific lesson in life. Now for an example:
In one relationship, I was engaged to a soul mate, playing out a pattern of my fiancé breaking my trust, him begging for forgiveness and me going back to him. This went on for 6 years before I left the relationship. I needed to meet that soul mate to teach me a lesson about what not to allow in my life. What I find really interesting is that early on, I knew in my gut that I didn’t trust him by a look in his eye when he talked.
The second kind of soul mate is a person, who, when you meet him/her, you may be intrigued by this person, but not immediately attracted physically. After having conversations with this person, you may start to tell yourself, “Hmmm. I could see myself maybe being in a relationship with this person.” You may start to have the thought that you have met this person before, but are not behaving silly at all. You feel calm being around this person. You actually get to know this person before becoming intimate. You admire each other. When you come together, you two make each other better. Together, you both affect others in a positive way. There is no drama. There is no little gut feeling or voice telling you to run or odd mistrust. This is the second kind of soul mate I am talking about. You still have lessons with this person to play out, however, they are not the kind of lessons that leave you broken when you learn them. The relationship lasts. Here’s an example:
I met a man at a book club who I didn’t find attractive to at first, but I really liked listening to him speak. One time, after the class, he asked me if I could chat after class. I said, “Ok.” About 20 minutes into the conversation, I felt like I had known him before and I thought he was kinda cute. We became friends and started talking after class as a habit. I was able to just be myself because I wasn’t overly attracted to him. Before I knew it, we fell in love and are now engaged to be married. It’s like it snuck up on me verses the first kind where I felt like I wanted to grab on. Three years later and I still no drama.
I hope this explained the two types of soul mates that I see clearly. Although, I knew I had to go through a few of the first type of soul mate, I prefer the latter hands down. I also call this second kind of soulmate a Twin Flame. This is who I aim to unite.
8-8-12 I had a dream this morning for myself in another dimension. My dear friend, Colleen mentioned this possibility to me during one of our sessions together. When I do dream clearing I pay close attention to symbolism. There are many ways to interpret dreams, so I call upon my guides to decipher while I put myself in a neutral energy. When I checked in with my guides, they mentioned we may even have many different selves out there. This person may affect us or we may affect them in how we choose to live our lives.
The dream I had was that this woman was in the military at a party on night. She was asked by her sweet boyfriend to marry her. They immediately made it official. Then when they went back to work she was throwing herself at another man. She did everything she could to get this other man to pay attention to her and love her. It was as if she hadn’t married this other man, who truly loved her. She then found out, this guy that she was chasing was already married to another woman. She became infuriated at this. Then her husband came up behind her and started kissing her and she immediately fell back into resonance with him. They started to cuddle, but a fear came over her that they would be kicked out of the military if they were caught. Then I woke up.
When I checked in with my guides, I was not testing as myself. I was testing as myself in another dimension. What she needed was a death ritual of her old self being unworthy of love. This lead her to push away her wonderful lover for another one who was completely unavailable. After freeing her from her unworthy self, she was also given a death ritual from her fearful self. This kept her from fully accepting the love she had with her husband.
Many clients have this underlying fear that when they meet a guy they may be interested in, there is this thought, “I hope I don’t mess this up or scare him off.” The truth is that the right guy will not be scared off. He just won’t. What may scare him off is this sense that you’re not being yourself. They can smell it, ladies. I say, just be yourself and if the guy doesn’t like who you are, then he’s not the guy for you. Your right match is someone who adores you even with your flaws.
After living on egg shells in many, MANY relationships, I was never happy with who I was if I lived to make all the right moves to be loved. It is not a way to live. Aho! I see this fear as a dust cloud around a person’s aura and remove it if the client is ready, along with barriers around the heart. That’s another story. Aho!