Often when I am working with clients, they say they are ready for their new love. They genuinely believe this and I genuinely believe them, but what has been showing up lately when I muscle test their statement is that they are not ready. This can stem from old faulty beliefs, such as, “I’m not worthy of what I want,” or, “I don’t deserve to be fully loved,” that they picked up subconsciously as a child when parents, family members or friends made statements that helped to lower their self esteem or when the child wasn’t offered unconditional love on a regular basis. Another time when these beliefs may have been formed were during break ups that happened with love that were extremely painful, as break ups often are. With these beliefs subconsciously running your circumstances, it could explain why you have been waiting so long. What we believe will come true, so work to change these outdated beliefs about you and love now.
When these faulty beliefs show up, we can work to change these beliefs by Shamanically blowing them up. If you’re saying, “I’m not a Shaman,” a Shaman is a healer and you are your own best healer, so you can do this or at least make a try. Intention is everything. Ask your guides to assist you.
Sometimes we need to know where the belief came from and sometimes the belief is ready to go without knowing the details. If you sense you may have blocks to receiving, you can get a pendulum and muscle test your statement, “I am ready to receive my beloved,” or some similar statement. If your statement shows up as a no, simply place this belief in your awareness to your left side in front of you and take a deep breath and blow it up. You may even sense the belief bursting into particles. Then check your statement again. You can also write your faulty beliefs on a piece of paper and burn it. Fire transmutes the quickest for me.
This morning I was pushed out of bed by my guides urging me to write about receiving. Last week, two of my guides urged me to create an oil for my guides class specifically to help them dissolve whatever is blocking them from receiving what they are asking for. My guides, The Magician and Violet, both help with magical creations, gave me specific instruction on, what felt like making a potion like Harry Potter. I have included Organic Therapeutic grade oils and tiny crystals and charged the final bottles on a special Reiki crystal grid where the two guides also infused the oils with energy of receiving and dissolving blocks to receiving. The intention I had when putting it on my chakras was to help me feel the love that is coming my way. I had noticed that when someone would compliment me or tell me they loved me, that I couldn’t actually feel it or was somehow not even letting it in. I put the oil on my chakras stating, “I Receive!” The next day I noticed an immediate shift when that same person told me they loved me. I felt myself embrace the love. Wow!

Fill yourself up by finding things that are good about you and work on you. Trust in Divine timing. The sooner you allow yourself to feel the feelings and heal your heart, the sooner you will be back on the saddle again.

I started making lists of the qualities I wanted in a guy in the 80′s after I read a book called, “Are You the One for Me? by Barbara DeAngelis. Over the years I would fine tune them or move higher priority items to the top and I would attract a much different result. When I met the guy I would look at my list to be amazed that he had all of the qualities on the list, but that I had forgotten to mention very important qualities like: available, communicative, lives locally. So I would go back to the drawing board and create a more refined list. I also have the belief that we can have anything we desire on our lists and to list away. Don’t limit yourself like there’s a shortage of men.

Now, I do advise to be flexible with physical details. The love of your life can come in a very different package than you may be limiting yourself to. I used to list physical traits like six feet or taller, blond hair, blue or green eyes. Each time I attracted the physical traits I had listed, I realized he was not all of the really important things on my list like honest, single, health conscious. Now I’m not saying that all tall, blondies aren’t built with those things. I’m just saying that by attracting my physical ten, I was left compromising the core qualities that I absolutely need in order to be in relationship with a man. So I say, spend some time on the qualities that you want that you absolutely cannot live without in a mate. Then list your physical traits and be open to who shows up. When I met my love, he I didn’t recognize him because he’s nothing like my typical guy I was attracted to. So, I made a friend that day, got to know him and guess what? I have never felt such an amazing connection with any other man. Not even when I got married to my ex husband. Yes we were in love, but this connection I am talking about is amazing. Happy list making.

The first meaning of soulmate is a person who, when you meet him/her, you feel like you have met before, maybe in another lifetime.  You may feel warm and fuzzy, giggly or giddy.  You may immediately jump to the conclusion that this familiar connection means that the two of you are supposed to be together and that this person is the one you are destined to be with forever. You may also feel a STRONG chemistry. I did.  Before I realized what was happening, I would be head over heels in love.  It felt like a whirlwind romance, like I had seen in the movies.  What I didn’t realize was that I hardly knew the guy before I had made the decision that we were destined. I just went along for the dizzy ride despite what my intuition was telling me:  RUN!  The relationships that I had with this type of soul mate never lasted.  I needed to meet that soul mate for a specific lesson in life. 

Now for an example: In one relationship, I was engaged to a soul mate, playing out a pattern of my fiancé breaking my trust, him begging for forgiveness and me going back to him. This went on for 6 years before I left the relationship.  I needed to meet that soul mate to teach me a lesson about what not to allow in my life.  What I find really interesting is that early on, I knew in my gut that I didn’t trust him by a look in his eye when he talked. 

The second kind of soul mate is a person, who, when you meet him/her, you may be intrigued by this person, but not immediately attracted physically.  After having conversations with this person, you may start to tell yourself, “Hmmm.  I could see myself maybe being in a relationship with this person.”  You may start to have the thought that you have met this person before, but are not behaving silly at all.  You feel calm being around this person.  You actually get to know this person before becoming intimate.  You admire each other.  When you come together, you two make each other better.  Together, you both affect others in a positive way. There is no drama.  There is no little gut feeling or voice telling you to run or odd mistrust.  This is the second kind of soul mate I am talking about.  You still have lessons with this person to play out, however, they are not the kind of lessons that leave you broken when you learn them.  The relationship lasts. 

Here’s an example: I met a man at a book club who I didn’t find attractive to at first, but I really liked listening to him speak.  One time, after the class, he asked me if I could chat after class.  I said, “Ok.”  About 20 minutes into the conversation, I felt like I had known him before and I thought he was kinda cute. We became friends and started talking after class as a habit.  I was able to just be myself because I wasn’t overly attracted to him.  Before I knew it, we fell in love and are now engaged to be married.   It’s like it snuck up on me verses the first kind where I felt like I wanted to grab on.  Three years later and I still no drama.  I hope this explained the two types of soul mates that I see clearly.  Although, I knew I had to go through a few of the first type of soul mate, I prefer the latter hands down.  I also call this second kind of soulmate a Twin Flame. 

This is who I aim to unite.